Far from it.
I'm still working on having a man want to meet me.
I did have one meeting -- a cup of coffee at a place -- but it was little more than listening to the gentleman describe his efforts to start his own business. He is certainly passionate about it for which I give him much credit. He is also about 5 years older looking than his photo gracing his profile. Sigh.
What I can't figure out is what goes on in the mind of a man (perhaps I'm not meant to) when he decides whether he wants to meet or not. I've exchanged emails and a couple of phone calls with one man, who while giving every indication that he wants to meet me has continued to be elusive and noncommittal about when and where. Guys, if you aren't interested a polite "No thanks" is fine with me. In fact it's easier to deal with -- cleaner, no fuss no muss. I don't expect even a fraction of the men online will think I'm a match for them. But I was hoping that a fraction of a fraction might be willing to meet for a 30 minute cup of coffee. Instead I get one of the following reactions:
- No reaction or response whatsoever -- the norm
- A polite 'no thanks' -- helpful but rare
- An indication that a meeting would be good, then either nothing (one guy cancelled our meeting 15 minutes after we were supposed to meet then never tried to connect again) or as I am dealing with now -- a guy who is either very shy, not ready to meet, or is hiding something
One thing I'm realizing is that having a healthy dose of self esteem, and telling the truth about one's intentions, are key to keeping positive. If I needed a man's interest in me to judge my worth I'd be in a bit of a pickle right now.
I had some professional photos taken last week and should receive the final versions in the next day or two. Not to count too heavily on the power of the visual, I think these will put me in the best light. My current photos are casual == a hike, on vacation, with my dog -- and perhaps do not show me in my best light. While I am clear that I am not highly attractive I think I'm pleasant looking and count my smile as one of my best features. So I'm always a bit miffed with men who don't post photos as I think it means they are either hiding something, can't be bother, or ashamed of their looks in which case why would I want to meet them?
I soldier on, with perhaps an inflated hope that my new photos will spark some interest.
