I'm trying very hard to keep an open mind about meeting men who may not appear at first glance to be my type. After all, my 16 year relationship (10 years married) was with a man who was not at all my type when we first met -- physically anyway.
I read the profiles carefully, looking for anything that looks even a bit interesting even if it's not something I know much about. Wine tasting? Fun to practice and get better at! Gardening -- sure, I'll stop and smell the roses. What could I learn from someone? I'm curious.
It's harder to keep an open mind when looking at photos...when there aren't any. Why do some men post profiles with no photos? It tells me they have something to hide, or that they can't be bothered, or worse, they aren't comfortable with who they are. I automatically delete any profile that comes my way if there's no photo. I don't expect a fantastic looking guy. I'm not that calibre myself. I'm usually attracted to a genuine smile, the kind that reaches all the way to your eyes. That's a great start. After that, it's the overall look of a man that is worth studying -- does he look happy? Interested? Self confident? Those things all mena more to me than perfect teeth, lots of hair, or a body builder physique.
I've reached out to men with profiles that look at least pleasant and who appear to have some interests in life. Even if I'm not sure, I'll take a chance, because who knows where it could lead?
Next time -- where's that balance between 'chemistry' and taking time to know each other?
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